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As
I grew older, joined the workforce, set out my life's goals, I would
think about all that my Mother had done to provide for us. All the
sacrifices, such as quitting her job on Wall Street to stay home with
me. 30 some-odd years later, the fact that women's roles in life change
once they have children remains tried and true.
It's
more than "I am Woman, hear me roar" it seems lately, it's "I am Wonder
Woman". I can work, take care of the kids, take care of my husband,
take care of my house, take care of the dog, take care of...
And then reality sets in and you have
"taken care of" so many things, people, places, that you not only forgot
yourself but you realize your life is not your own. When did that
happen? Somewhere between diaper change 1 million and doing the dishes,
it hits you. When did my life shift from being a woman to becoming
Wonder Woman? When did I decide that I wanted, nay, needed to have it
all?
I
don't remember when that happened to me... When did I say to myself,
"Self, I want it all". It seems that it was just a natural response to
what was happening in my life. It happened in stages, gradually. I met a
man, we fell in love, we lived together, we got married. So, right
there I wanted to be a good homemaker and wife. We had a baby, I quit my
job, and now I'm running a business and taking care of baby. Again,
suddenly, I'm a homemaker, wife, mother, and business owner. It happens
in stages, we start this journey thinking and being one way. Then we
morph into this other person who must do it all, know it all, be it all.
The culmination for me, happened when I had Darin. My role changed the
minute he was born. No longer was it about me, my needs, wants, desires,
it's about Darin. How to nurture this amazing little human being they
let me take home.Yet, in the back of my mind are my dreams, my dreams of
my own success. Thus the juggle to be Wonder Woman and "have it all"
continues.
I
started off talking about how much of a role model my Mother was to me.
She was an amazing person, and looking back on her life, she really was
Wonder Woman. Child, husband, home, job, dreams and more. The lesson is
we can strive to have it all... just not all at the same time.
Awesome post, to honor your Mom! Mothers are amazing, and I think we do what we need to, put what we want on the back burner, but then somewhere around the time your kids are in high school you can start thinking of your dreams again. Yes we do morph and I have found that my online business does too as my needs, desires and interests change. I hung up my cape several years back, but now as an entrepreneur I have a bunch of hats I wear!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you Gari Anne, Mothers are totally amazing I never truly understood until I "joined the club".
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